Remember the classic song by Michael Jackson, “Man in the Mirror?” One line of that song has always stuck with me. “If you wanna make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and make the change.” Michael Jackson. There are many moments in my life when I am frustrated by situations, circumstances, and honestly often other people. I wish I could say in those moments of distress I begin to look inward, but my blogs come from a place of honesty so I will just say the following is my desired response and the response I hope others will take. Here are a few points I think may be helpful:
• Practice introspection. Pay attention to what you can control and what you cannot. You will usually find the one and only thing you have control over is your response to a situation.
• Practice acceptance. This acceptance can come in the form of forgiveness and being non-judgmental. Give others room for imperfection. Also forgive yourself for not being perfect.
• Be the change you want to see. Understand you have the power to change your environment. Instead of complaining get moving. You have no idea the impact you can make.
I occasionally think of the lyrics of that classic song. It serves as a good reality check for me. It also serves as an empowering motivator. I have the ability to make change. You have this power as well.
Author, Alicia Lurry MA LPC CRC