Today is Election Day. I think of this day as a day of possibilities. It’s a day that we as Americans are expected to feel empowered and have our voices heard. It is a day of choice. It’s a day that we have considered our choices and make a decision. What if we applied this democratic process to solve problems in our personal life? I meet many patients who feel as if they have no power to control the circumstances in their lives. Often, this belief has been established early in life. There may have been instances of childhood trauma or negative experiences that reinforce the belief that there is no choice, no sense of empowerment. The truth is regardless of our past we all have choices related to our future. Using the idea of the democratic process, let’s apply this strategy to life challenges. The following three key principles are important to consider:
- The principle of possibility- Never give up on hope. The idea of possibility brings hope and can serve as fuel for encouragement during the process of change.
- The principle of finding your voice. Your voice is important. Your voice is your weapon. Your voice makes others take notice of your presence. Silencing your voice creates anxiety, anger and bitterness. You are worth being heard. Using your voice contributes positively to self esteem and self worth.
- The principle of decision. Making a decision regarding your situation begins the process of empowerment. A very wise man I know once said, “Destiny is wrapped up in decision.” Making a decision of how to deal with a problem or situation prevents the feeling stuck in a state of indecisiveness. Decisions must be made in order to move forward.
I hope these principles serve as encouragement to those who are looking for a way to move forward.
Alicia M. Lurry MA LPC CRC