Don’t fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things. The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have.” — Louis E. Boone
“Never be afraid to try something new. Remember, amateurs built the ark; professionals built the Titanic.” — Unknown
I speak with many people in therapy that would on the surface appear to be very successful. They have respectful jobs. They earn a great living taking care of their families. They appear to be living the life they planned. Often, I have found there is a discontent because these individuals have dreams that have been deferred in order to pursue the safer and more predictable route. I am a firm believer that we continue to evolve in interests and goals as humans. We thrive with the opportunity to explore and create new memories. We all have an innate ability to have vision and to dream.
Fear of the unknown and fear of failure are dream thieves. The common theme for the frustration felt with people who are not living their dream is fear. It’s important to note that there are real responsibilities in life that make living ones dream difficult. Difficulty does not mean impossibility. I encourage the reader that if you are feeling frustrated with life ask yourself the following: Have I lost my dream? Have I lost my wonder and adventure? If your answer is yes, take time to rediscover that dream. Become curious about the unknown. Be willing to explore.
Regret of what could have been is a much worse circumstance than fear of the unknown.
Alicia Lurry MA LPC