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The Adventure of the Unknown

Posted on: May 19th, 2022

Don’t fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things. The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have.” — Louis E. Boone

“Never be afraid to try something new. Remember, amateurs built the ark; professionals built the Titanic.” — Unknown

I speak with many people in therapy that would on the surface appear to be very successful. They have respectful jobs. They earn a great living taking care of their families. They appear to be living the life they planned. Often, I have found there is a discontent because these individuals have dreams that have been deferred in order to pursue the safer and more predictable route. I am a firm believer that we continue to evolve in interests and goals as humans. We thrive with the opportunity to explore and create new memories. We all have an innate ability to have vision and to dream.

Fear of the unknown and fear of failure are dream thieves. The common theme for the frustration felt with people who are not living their dream is fear. It’s important to note that there are real responsibilities in life that make living ones dream difficult. Difficulty does not mean impossibility. I encourage the reader that if you are feeling frustrated with life ask yourself the following: Have I lost my dream? Have I lost my wonder and adventure? If your answer is yes, take time to rediscover that dream. Become curious about the unknown. Be willing to explore.

Regret of what could have been is a much worse circumstance than fear of the unknown.

Author,

Alicia Lurry MA LPC

Be Resilient as a Bird

Posted on: April 27th, 2022

I speak to many people in therapy who have become disheartened because of life’s difficulties. Anyone who has lived long enough knows that the storms of life can often knock the wind out of you. Life will have challenges but the sign of a healthy perspective is the ability to be resilient in the challenge. What may you say being a bird has to do with any of this? I am glad you asked.

Birds are resilient. They teach their young to be resilient and independent. Think about the many winds birds have to fly through. If the storm becomes too rough, the bird seeks shelter. The bird displays resilience when he or she decides to fly again after the storm. You will never see a bird walking on the ground and refusing to fly again because they encountered a storm. The bird will teach this strength and resilience to its baby by pushing out the nest to fly. You will never see a mother bird flying with their off spring on their back. As a parent it’s important to identify If you are giving your child the necessary skills to fly.

Let’s take a lesson from our strong resilient bird friends.

Author,

Alicia M. Lurry LPC

Be Resilient as a Bird

Posted on: March 7th, 2022

I speak to many people in therapy who have become disheartened because of life’s difficulties. Anyone who has lived long enough knows that the storms of life can often knock the wind out of you. Life will have challenges but the sign of a healthy perspective is the ability to be resilient in the challenge. What may you say being a bird has to do with any of this? I am glad you asked.

Birds are resilient. They teach their young to be resilient and independent. Think about the many winds birds have to fly through. If the storm becomes too rough, the bird seeks shelter. The bird displays resilience when he or she decides to fly again after the storm. You will never see a bird walking on the ground and refusing to fly again because they encountered a storm. The bird will teach this strength and resilience to its baby by pushing it out the nest to fly. You will never see a mother bird flying with their off spring on their back. As a parent it’s important to identify If you are giving your child the necessary skills to fly.

Let’s take a lesson from our strong resilient bird friends.

Author,

Alicia M. Lurry LPC

Worry Less and Refocus

Posted on: January 10th, 2022

As we are continuing our lives through a global pandemic, it is easy to feel disheartened. Worry becomes a constant bully to rob us of any level of peace in the midst of difficulty. We often hold the misconception that worry is a vehicle for change.  Challenges will come. Life will happen. Worry drains us of the energy we need to deal with difficult times.  Ruminating over a problem allows the problem to take up the space necessary in our minds for solving the problem. Worry is an energy drain. Worry redirects focus from problem solving.

Of course we cannot just wish worry away. Identifying what we are worried about is the first step towards resolving the issue. I often ask my patients to write down the things they are worried about as a way of getting it out in the open.  Spending a short amount of time thinking about these things and then put it away. This exercise provides a visual representation of how to address worry.  Once you put the worry list away allow yourself to refocus and imagine possible solutions to your problems.

We have to take care of ourselves in time of stress. Be mindful to pay attention to areas of focus.

Author,

Alicia Lurry MA LPC

Hope Moves Mountains

Posted on: December 8th, 2021

We are living in very difficult times. Turn on the news there is a constant stream of devastation, anger, and the worst of human behavior. Difficult times are not new to human experience. History has shown us that every challenge must be met with resolve. This resolve for something better is fueled by hope. This hope provides us with vision. The vision for a greater experience. Hope is necessary to fuel resilience. It is resilience that allows us to move forward and not give in to circumstances.

I encourage anyone who feels trapped by circumstance or devastated by emotional pain, never give up hope. This is just one chapter in many chapters of the story of your life.

Stay encouraged!

Author,

Alicia Lurry MA LPC

Moving Forward Without Regret

Posted on: November 9th, 2021

The longer you live the more you will have experiences of joy for the great experiences in life and some regret regarding results and consequences that are out of our control. We can regret missed opportunities and bad decision. We can regret words and actions produced out of anger. All too often our regrets take priority in our consciousness. We hold on to the things we cannot change almost as if we have a time machine that will allow us to right every wrong. Regret is a weight that holds us down from moving forward. Regret causes us to look back instead of looking forward. Regret is a self- inflicted punishment that never finds relief.

If you struggle with regret I encourage you to release yourself from that prison. You cannot change the past but you can prevent the past from tainting your present and future. The difficult moments are there for us to learn from. Learn the lesson and move forward.

Author,

Alicia Lurry LPC

Embracing Change

Posted on: October 12th, 2021

Starting a new journey can be both exciting and a little scary. Many people find comfort in familiarity. I propose that the comfort in the familiar often is a mechanism that prevents the necessary evolution of growth. The challenge is the idea of letting go of the unknown. The idea that the unknown will automatically be worse than the known creates fear. What would happen if we dismissed the narrative that the unknown is bad?  An analogy I often use is the idea of skydiving. People skydive for the first time I am very sure with a healthy amount of fear. Even though the fear is present they still take the leap. I believe the reward for taking the leap is embracing a new adventure. Taking the leap causes the fear to diminish its hold making a way to experience the joy of the adventure.

Move with courage. Embrace the change you want for your life.

Author,

Alicia M. Lurry MA LPC

Don’t Despise the Process

Posted on: September 13th, 2021

I recently underwent a medical procedure that forced me to slow down my regular lifestyle significantly. I have struggled not only with the healing process but with not being able to do what I normally am able to do.  I have learned during this time that this process requires patience and this time of patience brings growth.  Learning to be still and moving more slowly seems like a punishment at first. I wonder however, if times of stillness can be considered times of restoration and replenishment. Moving more slowly allows one to pay attention, see, hear and listen. The process is necessary for change. Meaningful change can often cause great discomfort. Working through the process requires resilience and resolve. If you find yourself in an uncomfortable place in the process of healing, hang in there the end result is positive change.

Author,

Alicia Lurry MA LPC

Finding Your Spark

Posted on: August 6th, 2021

A few months ago Disney came out with a movie entitled ‘Soul.” Without spoiling the plot, the main theme of the movie was about finding the thing in life that gives us purpose. I always took for granted that people understood they have purpose in life.  Over the years as I have spoken to many people in therapy I began to learn that the idea of purpose in life is often not a consideration. What if we viewed our difficulties and our triumphs as experiences contributing to our purpose?

When we look at moments in time that are difficult, try to view them through the lens of purpose. As a therapist, I often speak with patients who struggle with grief from the loss of a loved one. I provide empathetic support but I also can relate as I have had my own personal experience with grief. At the time of my personal loss, I couldn’t see how this experience would be able to help anyone, but, it has on many occasions.

Your spark is anything that gives you purpose.  Your purpose can be found in anything that contributes to the well-being of others. Everyone has a purpose. Enjoy finding your spark.

Author

Alicia M. Lurry LPC

Celebration of Independence

Posted on: July 9th, 2021

A few days ago the nation celebrated Independence Day. This day represents the freedom of expression, freedom of choice and pursuit of happiness. We hold these principles as a founding vision for the ideas of our country. It is important to identify these values as relevant to all. We who believe in these principles must be willing to defend them for those who have limited or no voice.

There are people in our midst who struggle with disabilities or are differently abled. Many are ignored and defined by their physical or intellectual limitations. As we celebrate our freedom recognize the importance of freedom for all.   Freedom is precious and should be valued. Independence and the pursuit of happiness is what everyone requires. True freedom comes when everyone can celebrate without discrimination and pursue the greatness of individuality.

Author,

Alicia Lurry LPC